Displacement
Displacement- shifting your feelings about a person to another person
My Experience
Last week, I was upset with my boss over my work schedule. I didn't feel like it was appropriate to confront her about these feelings because she's my boss, so instead I was angry and irritable the rest of the day. When my mom got home from work, she offered to help me do my laundry and I snapped at her.
Why?
I resorted to this behavior of taking out my anger on my mom because I didn't want to get in trouble at work. Of course, my mom did nothing wrong and I felt bad that I hurt her feelings afterward. Perhaps next time I can find a calm way I can discuss things with my boss or find a healthy way to express my frustrations so I don't take it out on my innocent loved ones.
Last week, I was upset with my boss over my work schedule. I didn't feel like it was appropriate to confront her about these feelings because she's my boss, so instead I was angry and irritable the rest of the day. When my mom got home from work, she offered to help me do my laundry and I snapped at her.
Why?
I resorted to this behavior of taking out my anger on my mom because I didn't want to get in trouble at work. Of course, my mom did nothing wrong and I felt bad that I hurt her feelings afterward. Perhaps next time I can find a calm way I can discuss things with my boss or find a healthy way to express my frustrations so I don't take it out on my innocent loved ones.
Denial
Denial- Refusing to acknowledge to yourself what you really know to be true
My Experience
I used to smoke cigarettes. Nicotine is extremely addictive and cigarettes have a plethora of nasty effects on your body. I was aware of all this and I continued to smoke.
Why?
I used to just dismiss these facts because I wasn't ready to quit, and I guess I believed that these risks wouldn't happen to me. Now that I am older I realize that smoking is dangerous and I am just as likely to get cancer and other things as the next individual.
I used to smoke cigarettes. Nicotine is extremely addictive and cigarettes have a plethora of nasty effects on your body. I was aware of all this and I continued to smoke.
Why?
I used to just dismiss these facts because I wasn't ready to quit, and I guess I believed that these risks wouldn't happen to me. Now that I am older I realize that smoking is dangerous and I am just as likely to get cancer and other things as the next individual.
Passive-Aggressive Behavior
Passive-Aggressive Behavior- Expressing hostility toward someone by covertly uncooperative or passive
My Experience
I was upset with my mother because we had gotten into an argument. I usually clean the kitchen for her every day because I know he makes her happy, but I didn't clean the kitchen that day. I also purposely used like three different cups at lunch.
Why?
After my anger subsided, I realized how childish this behavior was. I think I resorted to this defense mechanism because I was upset with my mother but I wasn't upset enough to escalate the argument or seriously damage her feelings.
I was upset with my mother because we had gotten into an argument. I usually clean the kitchen for her every day because I know he makes her happy, but I didn't clean the kitchen that day. I also purposely used like three different cups at lunch.
Why?
After my anger subsided, I realized how childish this behavior was. I think I resorted to this defense mechanism because I was upset with my mother but I wasn't upset enough to escalate the argument or seriously damage her feelings.
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